As I stated previously, blended families are the new norm. When you really think about it every relationship we have is blended in some way. Our closes relationships are with people who we share similar ideas about business, parenting, faith etc. We learn from one another we blend our ides to in order to build relationships. There are some people who you don’t connect with because you’re not able to blend your ideas with theirs. When two people come together and become one they share not only a last name but they’re blending their beliefs about faith, family, politics etc. Couples within the same race have to blend these same ideas and just because you share a race with someone doesn’t automatically guarantee you will rest on shared idea. From my perspective a person’s beliefs & culture are common reasons for couples to call it quits, regardless of their race. You can have people from two different races who maybe weren’t raised culturally the same but because the share the same beliefs about family, faith etc the chances of them having a successful marriage in highly likely. I guess when you think about it we put too much emphasis on culture and race and not enough on one’s belief system.
As a saved single parent I am more concerned about a person’s beliefs and relationship with God. My life is built around my relationship with Jesus Christ and I am only interested in dating one who beliefs are the same as mine. I can negotiate geographical preferences, however, I can’t compromise my belief system. It can be challenging at times to blend families that have children from previous relationships. You have to consider not only the beliefs of you and your potential partner, you have to also consider the beliefs of the bio parents. That can be tough when you chose to run your household in a certain manner that is contrary to the beliefs of the bio parent. All parties have to be committed first to what is best for the child and hopefully from there you can build a solid foundation that will work out for the best. In some circumstances you may have to make the decision to walk away.
Until next time…