What Season Are you In?

Hi,

I had a chance to sit down and catch up with Melonie of Fit Diva and she had a lot to say about balancing all the many roles that she plays.

“How do I manage being a wife, mom, work and enturpurnuership? Honestly this was a very hard question to unpack because, like most women majority of the time I feel like I’m failing at them all. As I grow im learning to celebrate myself more and that includes really digging deep to aknowlage I’m actually winning NOT failing at all of the hats I wear.

The best words I can use to say HOW are “FOUNDATION” AND SEASONS. I have lived to learn how to KEEP my FAITH & FAMILIES as the FOUNDATION of my roles and let everything else become important or priority over the other in its own season. I have learned how to make every role in my life work for each other in the right season. In this seasons I need my 9 to 5 to fund the vision that drives my business.

This KEEPS me super focused and determined to soak up as many tools and skills and foster good relationships from corporate America to apply to Fit Diva. Now don’t get me wrong things do fall through the cracks and some things go in lack from time to time but those times have taught me how to step back and take breaks so that I can re- assess my priorities.

When I feel like I am spinning out of control I pause and plug into my life sources. I ask for clarity from GOD and comfort from my husband and kids. These are some of the tools and concepts I apply to change the naritve of NOT being a FAILURE but a consistant SUCCESS at all of the things I have been called to do IN THEIR RIGHTFUL SEASONS”!

I can totally relate to Melonie’s message about seasons and finding balance to pursue the things God has predestined you to do!

Until next time…

You’ve Got What You Need

A local hair stylist launched a new product and advertised it on Facebook. So, I visited her booth at a vendor show and I bought a huge bottle of the product, Whisper Whip. 

The owner explained the product could do it all. It was a shampoo, a co-wash, a leave in conditioner, and a moisturizer. I used it as a moisturizer. It was light, didn’t weigh my hair down, and left it feeling great. For years, Whisper Whip was in my rotation for wash days, styling days and every day. My hair is coily, has fine strands, is low porosity and prone to tangle. Because of this I do not wear my hair down. A wash n go hairstyle would mean a life sentence of detangling and I have neither patience nor the time.

It turns out I had what I needed all along. The product was good for everything. And so, it is with our faith walk. We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. We have everything we need to reach our God given goals and the courage to use our talents. Believe the creator when He tells us he is everything, El Shaddai. Are you just relying on God in one way? You may be missing out on His love in other areas of your life. Do you think a prosperous, abundant life is for others, but not for you? I thought wash n go styles were not for my hair type. My beliefs about my hair kept me from having a fabulous hairstyle. What beliefs about yourself are keeping you from having a fabulous life? Let God into those areas; he created you and knows what you can do.

* Whisper Whip is a trademarked brand of Healthy Hair Solutions and is in no way affiliated with this blog.*
The results of my hair transformation!
The results of my transformation!

 

Marriage, Is It Right For Me? (Part II)

Allow Him to pour into you. Don’t compare your partner to the last person you dated or to your friends and family who went through something similar. Their experiences are helpful at times. However, you cannot walk in peace and reverence with God if you only refer to their experiences. You don’t want to limit what God is able do in your life. He will only operate within what you believe. So, if you believe all men cheat, then that’s what you will deal with. When you marry the person that God has ordained to be your spouse, you will need to grow closer to God and keep Him centered in the marriage, not the kids, routines, vacations, or another repair to your body or your house. Some people think, if we add another child to the family, things will be better for my husband and me. Or maybe if I get a better paying job. Maybe I should lose some weight. Or, when the kids get a little older, we will be okay.

The truth is you will be okay when the two of you seek God together and find out what he has for the two of you to do. Petition the Lord for an assignment. Be prepared for what he may show you. He may tell you to have a Bible study in your home. He may say that you need to slow down and seek Him more. Again, marriage is not about how the world views it. Look to God for discernment and know that marriage is God, man, and wife. They are one in the same, just as God is the father, the son, and the Holy Ghost. You can’t have one without the other.

Are there any family traditions or childhood experiences that have affected how you view marriage? If so, how did you work to overcome them? Do you struggle with commitment, and why do you think that is? Has God given you a mission for your marriage?

Until next time…

 

Marriage: Is It Right For me?! ( Part I)

As a single woman in Christ, I’m waiting for God to bring my mate and me together. For a long time, I didn’t really understand what it meant to be one with another person. I memorized Bible verses on marriage, and I thought that was all I needed. I hadn’t ever seen a real godly marriage. I have heard people reminisce about the good man that they used to have, but I’ve never really seen people put in the work to have a successful marriage or relationship. I was raised by a single parent. I understand that sometimes, things don’t work out. Most families in my neighborhood consisted of a mother and one, two, or more children, who, sometimes, had different fathers. As a kid, I learned early on that, if it’s not working out, you have the option to leave.

I was proud that I memorized a few scriptures on marriage, however God wanted more out of me. He wanted me to learn how to avoid being a quitter. After spending time with God through prayer and heartache, I began to commit myself to God’s will and purpose for my life. God gave me understanding about marriage and how it related to me. I believe marriage is something I can be successful at.

Marriage is more than what we see in the world. It’s more than what looks good on paper and what a person can do for you. It is what the two who are married can do for God. You must truly walk with God in order to have a healthy relationship with anyone. You have to spend time with our heavenly father and let Him be lord over your marriage.

Until next time…

Simple Living…

With all of the ideas, meetings, discussions & decisions etc. that are thrown at us each day. It’s not surprising that most of us are exhausted & aren’t really enjoying our life. Sure, there are times that we feel fulfilled and excited about what our next project will be! However, most of the time we’re running on fumes & feel defeated. I want to be able to say that there is a way to never experience stress or feeling unappreciated but the truth is it takes work on our part to really live in abundance. Although, living in abundance doesn’t mean that we’re drama free. It means that we’ve found a way to live a fulfilling & meaningful life with purpose. If you’re debt free & money isn’t an issue, that doesn’t mean that you’re living a meaningful life. I’m learning that it is good to live simpler. When I cut back a little on whatever it is that I like to indulge in…in that moment I feel less pressure and overtime I find my life to be more meaningful and my emotions shift from feeling defeated to feeling satisfied and then my purpose becomes more clear to me.

Until next time…