Is Suburban Living Overrated?

I spent two years of commuting from North Saint Louis County to Downtown St. Louis , for work . I was driving more than twenty minutes each way for work and my son’s school. The two of us were living in a 2 bedroom rental. It was a cute little 2 bedroom house.  I had the luxury of having a driveway a designated office space and the convenience of having an laundry area in the basement!  It was nice, plenty of space, but a not so great neighborhood!  We needed a change and I grew up near the Downtown area, so it didn’t take long for me to make a decision to move back to familiar territory. This journey was a little different because I was losing a lot of space and privacy. But, I decided to make the the jump and we moved  into a two bedroom apartment right in the heart of Downtown St. Louis, there is so much history and everything is right outside my door! I can walk to work, restaurants, shopping etc.

 My son’s school  is a  less than a mile from our house.  We went from our rental to sharing a 1 laundry room that serves 90 units!  Don’t get my wrong there have been sacrifices. The driveway is now a distant fantasy and I  pay for parking in an underground garage. Climbing three flights of stairs with groceries can be a challenge but also a great way to get into shape. I knew my son would be losing out on being able to go out and play in a “traditional” neighborhood but he loves it and he attends the Boys and Girls Club .  There is so much diversity in the city, culturally, racially and economically. I want him to be prepared for the real world and be able to be around people who are different from himself without compromising his convictions. He has a long life ahead of him and so do I!

Until next time…

Blended Families part II

As I stated previously, blended families are the new norm. When you really think about it every relationship we have is blended in some way. Our closes relationships are with people who we share similar ideas about business, parenting, faith etc.  We learn from one another we blend our ides to in order to build relationships. There are some people  who you don’t connect with because you’re not able to  blend your ideas with theirs. When two people come together and become one they share not only a last name but they’re blending their beliefs about faith, family, politics etc. Couples within the same race  have to blend these same ideas and just because you share a race with someone doesn’t automatically guarantee you will rest  on shared idea.  From my perspective a person’s beliefs & culture are common reasons for couples to call it quits, regardless of their race.   You can have people from two different races who maybe weren’t raised culturally the same but because the share the same beliefs about family, faith etc the chances of them having a successful marriage in highly likely.  I guess when you think about it we put too much emphasis on culture and race and not enough on one’s belief system.

As a saved single parent I am more concerned about a person’s beliefs and relationship with God. My life is built around my relationship with Jesus Christ and I am only interested in  dating one who beliefs are the same as mine. I can negotiate geographical preferences, however, I can’t compromise my belief system. It can be challenging at times to blend families that have children from previous relationships. You have to consider not only the beliefs of you and your potential partner, you have to also consider the beliefs of the bio parents. That can be tough when you chose to run your household in a certain manner that is contrary to the beliefs of the bio parent. All parties have to be committed first to what is best for the child and hopefully from there you can build a solid foundation that  will work out for the best.  In some circumstances you  may have to make the decision to walk away.

Until next time…