Hey, In less than 30 days until my 38th birthday and just wanted to share a few words of encouragement!
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I haven’t’ been able to blog lately because I’ve been so engrossed in social media and t.v. and my more recent obsession is reading national and world news articles. Reading my daily articles are one the first things I do in the morning, after prayer. It’s NOT the best way to start your day..well not for me, because you are distracted all day at work thinking about all of things happening around you. I was over an hour late to work because I was reading news articles! I’ve been in twitter wars with people over politics and the Stockley verdict and you know what I got out of it? A bunch of nothing! Blogging is one of the few things I enjoy and I placed it on the back burner. Both social media and t.v. can become a huge distraction. I had to take a break and regroup.
I guess part of the reason I’ve spent so much time distracted is because I’ve been avoiding the “what’s next” question. What are my next set of plans/goals. When you fill your head and spirit with too much of anything you lose focus and your goals become skewed. TV and social media are filled with advertisements designed to entice you, as they should it’s a multi billion dollar industry! Networks and some of the people we “follow” are constantly selling us products and or images of what they want us to buy into. It’s so easy to spend hours throughout the day inhaling it all!
Imagine if that time was spent investing into your future. I know that social media and tv is a form of escape and entertainment. What I find most interesting is people sometimes use social media to “shop” and “lust” after other people’s lives. I don’t know if that makes sense to you or not 🙂 In short, I’m working really hard at fighting distractions and putting my energy into things that that will answer my question of “what’s next”.
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I’ve been really busy this month between my birthday, arranging summer activities and finishing a few projects. Obviously, the highlight of June has been my birthday but the down side to turning 37 is I’m still single! At 37 most people have a good sense of self and know what they want in a spouse. But why are there so many single men and women. Is there a lack of good men and women or is it because we’re dating the wrong type of person?
When you’re single people tend to offer their advice to try and make sense of why you’re single. The most common things I’ve heard are “it’s not your time,” understandable… “two is better than one” agreed… and “everyone needs somebody” ok simple enough…lets move on! I’m ready to be married and I enjoy my own company. I’m naturally a busy body and because of that people think that I’m too busy to date. I make time for what I want to make time for. Oh, and my least favorite is “you’ll meet someone when you lose weight” but not necessarily in that order. So, does size matter? I don’t accept this as truth. I think it’s important to be the best version of yourself for yourself!
It’s ok for someone to prefer a smaller leaner frame over my robust frame. I’m not offended that I’m not someone’s type! That would be ridiculous for me to be upset about something like that. I have preferences too which are probably border line and may be one of the reasons I’m still single 😊 The Media has great influence on how society views body image dating and relationships. Everyone wants to be someone they’re not. People are overly obsessed with body image. I’ll walk down my version of lover’s lane and you walk yours.
A few years ago, I took the Five Love Languages quiz. Which is designed to help you learn you and your partner’s love language. My top love language is Acts of service. I like being in relationships with people who like doing things for me. It can be as simple as taking out the trash without me having to ask. I found the quiz to be both entertaining and spot on. It perfectly summed up my love language. Not only does it help you learn things about yourself it helps with understanding some of your partner and children needs.
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Since my last blog post “Who Asked For Your Opinion” the word “opinion” has been mentioned at home and work! You’ve asked for specific examples. So, I’m going to give you what you want! Whenever, the word opinion is used the preceding words AREN’T “thank you for your” it’s more like “who ASKED for your”.
I believe that you can say just about anything you want to anyone if it’s said in the right moment and tone! When I was ten or younger. My mother asked me why to do I talk so much and I responded, “because I have so much to say” and I do. At 36 not too much has changed! However, my approach has. I’ve learned to have tact and read the room before responding. Now, with that being said I’ve said some inappropriate things to the wrong people at the wrong time. Some of things I’ve said have been very offensive and I’m a little embarrassed about it. There’s no way I can possible detail all of the unwarranted comments I’ve made all in the name of “it just my opinion”. I’ll share a couple…
I worked in Retail a few years back I was like 22 & 23 and my Manager was a few years older than myself. She was cool and a lot of fun! One day she did or said something that I thought was ridiculous and I told her she was so juvenile. I didn’t think it was a big thing until a few months later I requested to change my hours/raise etc. and she mentioned that I called her immature, I corrected her and reminded her that I said she was juvenile and not immature. Needless to say things didn’t work out in my favor.
Another time I was at my friend’s place and she had a new sofa and I asked her “where’d you get this lil ugly thang”? she told me where… and that was that. A few months later my friend and I were hanging out with my co-worker who mentioned something about me and my “opinions’ and the two of them shared various times I’ve volunteered my opinion. I had an old friend and new friend swapping stories…it was bad! These were really innocent in comparison to some of other things I’ve said in other relationships.
I’ve made a lot of reckless comments in my twenties and beyond… my intentions weren’t intended to be mean. I just thought my opinion really mattered.
Some of the relationships in your life you have to use kid gloves and that’s ok. However, we all have relationships where you can be honest and real. Sometimes the people closes to you can’t handle the way in which you give your opinion. You have to have someone you’re accountable to…there should be someone that’s able to be real and raw with you, without you overacting. People don’t like to feel belittled, attacked or rejected. Sometimes, it’s best to sit back and listen. I’ve learned to pray about certain things before giving my opinion.
If your friend is trying to squeeze in a pair of shoes and you can see their feet is bleeding, I think it safe for you to give your opinion. Now if the shoes fit and you don’t like what they look like…who cares who asked you your opinion?
Hint Hint—> A. Wayne 🙂
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For decades’ women have sometimes tortured themselves all in the name of beauty & I’m one of them! I have put myself in plenty of uncomfortable situations in order to strut around in a new pair of stilettos! Recently, I had a chance to sit down with Tracie of “Pretty N’ Lashed to discuss extension lashes. She’s a wife, mother and a serial crafter. She’s also a lover of everything feminine & frilly. Tracie has now added entrepreneur to her many roles. As a Certified Lash Technician she applies extension mink lashes which can take up to an hour per visit , however, extension lashes are more natural and desirable than synthetic lashes. They compliment your eyes instead weighing down your eyelids with globs of glue! An hour doesn’t sound too bad when you want quality work! She invited me into her home to observe her work on one of her clients!
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