It’s ok to spend time alone. In fact I think it’s healthy to enjoy your own company and have things that you do for yourself.
I need my downtime because my mind is always busy and sometimes I want to dummy down and watch some of my favorite shows. However, you must be mindful of what you entertain yourself with. The goal is to be a better version of yourself and not get boggled down by the waywardness of the world.
Don’t be afraid and don’t live in fear. Take a chance to do something that you find difficult but will empower you in the end!
As a single woman in Christ, I’m waiting for God to bring my mate and me together. For a long time, I didn’t really understand what it meant to be one with another person. I memorized Bible verses on marriage, and I thought that was all I needed. I hadn’t ever seen a real godly marriage. I have heard people reminisce about the good man that they used to have, but I’ve never really seen people put in the work to have a successful marriage or relationship. I was raised by a single parent. I understand that sometimes, things don’t work out. Most families in my neighborhood consisted of a mother and one, two, or more children, who, sometimes, had different fathers. As a kid, I learned early on that, if it’s not working out, you have the option to leave.
I was proud that I memorized a few scriptures on marriage, however God wanted more out of me. He wanted me to learn how to avoid being a quitter. After spending time with God through prayer and heartache, I began to commit myself to God’s will and purpose for my life. God gave me understanding about marriage and how it related to me. I believe marriage is something I can be successful at.
Marriage is more than what we see in the world. It’s more than what looks good on paper and what a person can do for you. It is what the two who are married can do for God. You must truly walk with God in order to have a healthy relationship with anyone. You have to spend time with our heavenly father and let Him be lord over your marriage.
The highlight of my weekend was sleeping in and rushing out of the house with my son to meet with my friend and her two boys to attend a birthday party. Our mutual friend was having a birthday party for her biracial fraternal twin boys who turned one! Their mother is African-American and father is white. The mother has a daughter from a previous relationship who is also African-American. We arrived late and little anxious but after being greeted by two 4 ft Elmo balloons we couldn’t help but feel at ease and welcomed. Both families were in attendance, they were all very nice and there wasn’t any friction or confusion. We were all there to celebrate the twins and believe me everything was all about them. There were two of everything, two 3 tier cakes, with candles that shot out a few sparks, opened up, spun around and played music. The food was catered and again it was a really friendly pleasant environment. I couldn’t help but keep my eyes focused on the parents. They made such a cute couple and seem really happy! The dad is so in love with his boys! The parents were working together to keep the boys still so we could take pictures of them. While I was snapping pictures with my phone I couldn’t help but think that blended families are the new normal. Traditionally you see African-American men dating outside of their race and usually African-American women, we hang on faithful and true to them. I think we need to be open to the possibility of finding love outside of our race. My perspective on how a family should live is biblically based however, my perspective on how a family should look has changed.