The Beauty Of Black Women

Playing Dress Up

Most little girls play dress up and put on their mother’s heels, make up and like to feel like a princess. All our story books are filled with stories of romance. The sweet innocent princess is rescued by the handsome charming prince. As the story goes, Snow White  was under a spell and it took “true loves kiss” to wake her! As children, we think romance and beauty is what we see on tv. A fair skin young lady is seen as beautiful and women of color are portrayed as sassy.  When I was younger I remember seeing black women dancing around in videos in a very sexual way. The music was vulgar and the women appeared aggressive. Fast forward twenty something years later and not too much has changed. Black women are seen as aggressive and are unappreciated.

As a kid I thought beauty was fashion and makeup. I never considered the complexion of someone’s skin, social economic status etc as beauty. If your dress was nice and handbag was pretty I thought that that was beauty. As an adult I see beauty in everything. I see beauty in nature and in art! I want to know how other black women feel about beauty and how black women are perceived in society.  I decided to sit with Brandi Turner to get her take on beauty.

The Many Images of Black Women

As Brandi mentioned there are many different shades of black women. Which is a good thing! This idea that lighter skin black women are somehow more attractive than darker skin black women is a LIE! The lie continues to live because of how black women are portrayed in society and media. Remember the story of Snow White she was seen as sweet and innocent and needed to be rescued. She spoke softly and had fair skin. There are women that are that way, however, when you’re not why are you seen as loud, angry or obnoxious?  As black women society tends to go a step further and if we don’t take on that image we are seen as aggressive, rebellious and angry!


I was raised by a single mother and I’m now a single parent. Obviously, no one plans to be a single parent, however, things happen.  There are fewer black women married than any other race.  Black men are more likely to date outside their race.

We’re not all single mothers there are plenty of successful black married couples. Meet Tamica Webb, she has been married to Peter for almost five years they have one son and a week ago she graduated from Columbia College and she’s’ my younger cousin!  Tamica and I sat down and talked about her perception of beauty as a black woman.


Society plays a major role in the way we view beauty! I see beauty in everything. It’s so much more than the outer appearance of person. I’m so bored with videos, movies and all the images around us that try to push their beauty standards on to us.

You never see a full-figured women as the love interest in a movie as if full figured women aren’t being pursued! Why does the blonde have to play dumb?  Stop buying into the hype. I’m over it! I love beauty and fashion just like the next person but I buy what I like and if what I like just so happens to be on trend…well that’s even better!

Tuesday’s Tip

Hi guys!

We all have challenges in our lives and were not built to take them on alone.  Sometimes a stranger can be a better friend to you than family. Here’s a little tip for you to encourage you to stay the course.

Please listen below…


Birthday Countdown…

Hey, In less than 30 days until my 38th birthday and just wanted to share a few words of encouragement!




Until next time…

Do You Romanticize Relationships?

Leave the past in the past…

After a relationship ends and you’ve moved on we sometimes romanticize the relationship, and this is true for both romantic and platonic relationships. We share stories about how great of a relationship we had and we forget the tough times. I’m not saying that you should be miserable and unforgiving but, what I am saying is appreciate what you’ve learned from the relationship and move on.  There’s a reason you’re no longer in the relationship. Don’t linger on to the “good ole days” accept what the truth really is and, walk in your purpose. When we reminisce we sometimes forget the bad times and wonder if we should go back. Not all relationships are meant to be permanent. Not all relationship break off because of a huge fallout and or abuse.  It can be as simple as a lack of support.

Friend or faux

I remember going through what I like to call a pre-mid life crisis (honestly it was more serious than that but, I’ll share that with you another time) and, there were people there for me. They didn’t know or really understand what was happening but, they made themselves available and sometimes that’s all you need. Then there were people who didn’t have time because they were dealing with their own issues and couldn’t be as available and that’s ok I’m a reasonable person.  There were also people who didn’t really care and some of those relationship ended over time.

See you at the top

I say this humbly, I am THANKFUL for the people who are no longer in my life and I wish them well.  It’s not a negative thing those relationships were exhausting.  You have to be careful what relationship you invest in and understand the role each person plays in your journey.  Don’t get me wrong there are people who are no longer in my life that I’ve been close to over the years but we either loss touch or just moved in different directions. That’s ok because any of those people I welcome into my life any day. I know that I haven’t always been the friend I needed to be and to those people I say I’m sorry!

Until next time…


New Year Better Relationships

Welcome to 2018 Live In Abundance style! It’s amazing that it’s 2018 and were not flying cars! I thought we’d be flying cars and riding on hover boards like Marty Mc Fly. Um…guess not! 2018 is just another year to make good on some promises you made to yourself; losing weight, traveling, and spending more time with the family etc. Don’t the let the pressure of the new year stress you.

I have a few suggestions of things you can gradually change in your life.
Take a look/listen to the video below…