The Beauty Of Black Women

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Most little girls play dress up and put on their mother’s heels, make up and like to feel like a princess. All our story books are filled with stories of romance. The sweet innocent princess is rescued by the handsome charming prince. As the story goes, Snow White  was under a spell and it took “true loves kiss” to wake her! As children, we think romance and beauty is what we see on tv. A fair skin young lady is seen as beautiful and women of color are portrayed as sassy.  When I was younger I remember seeing black women dancing around in videos in a very sexual way. The music was vulgar and the women appeared aggressive. Fast forward twenty something years later and not too much has changed. Black women are seen as aggressive and are unappreciated.

As a kid I thought beauty was fashion and makeup. I never considered the complexion of someone’s skin, social economic status etc as beauty. If your dress was nice and handbag was pretty I thought that that was beauty. As an adult I see beauty in everything. I see beauty in nature and in art! I want to know how other black women feel about beauty and how black women are perceived in society.  I decided to sit with Brandi Turner to get her take on beauty.

The Many Images of Black Women

As Brandi mentioned there are many different shades of black women. Which is a good thing! This idea that lighter skin black women are somehow more attractive than darker skin black women is a LIE! The lie continues to live because of how black women are portrayed in society and media. Remember the story of Snow White she was seen as sweet and innocent and needed to be rescued. She spoke softly and had fair skin. There are women that are that way, however, when you’re not why are you seen as loud, angry or obnoxious?  As black women society tends to go a step further and if we don’t take on that image we are seen as aggressive, rebellious and angry!

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I was raised by a single mother and I’m now a single parent. Obviously, no one plans to be a single parent, however, things happen.  There are fewer black women married than any other race.  Black men are more likely to date outside their race.

We’re not all single mothers there are plenty of successful black married couples. Meet Tamica Webb, she has been married to Peter for almost five years they have one son and a week ago she graduated from Columbia College and she’s’ my younger cousin!  Tamica and I sat down and talked about her perception of beauty as a black woman.

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Society plays a major role in the way we view beauty! I see beauty in everything. It’s so much more than the outer appearance of person. I’m so bored with videos, movies and all the images around us that try to push their beauty standards on to us.

You never see a full-figured women as the love interest in a movie as if full figured women aren’t being pursued! Why does the blonde have to play dumb?  Stop buying into the hype. I’m over it! I love beauty and fashion just like the next person but I buy what I like and if what I like just so happens to be on trend…well that’s even better!

Birthday Countdown…

Hey, In less than 30 days until my 38th birthday and just wanted to share a few words of encouragement!

 

 

 

Until next time…

African Immigrants Perception Of African Americans

Relationships can be so complex. We communicate differently, and don’t always understand one another.  We’re all different.  A lot of our differences has to do with our cultures, beliefs and ancestry. America is one big melting pot and immigration has always been a hot topic. Recently there has been a lot of talk about immigrants and deportation, from President Trump. Immigrants come to America to take part in what we sometimes take for granted, the American dream. As Americans we’re quick to give our opinion on immigration, and we forget to consider how immigrants view Americans.  I’ve always wondered what African immigrants think of African-Americans. Seven years ago, I interviewed Mohammad, an African immigrant from Ethiopia, and had a chance to get his view.

The interview takes place in his convenience store.  He is a graduate of Roosevelt High School, and moved to the states between the ages of twelve and fourteen.

 

 

Too Much Of Anything Will Kill You

I haven’t’ been able to blog lately because I’ve been so engrossed in social media and t.v. and my more recent obsession is reading national and world news articles. Reading my daily articles are one the first things I do in the morning, after prayer. It’s NOT the best way to start your day..well  not for me, because you are distracted all day at work thinking about all of things happening around you.  I was over an hour late to work because I was reading news articles! I’ve been in twitter wars with people over politics and the Stockley verdict and you know what I got out of it? A bunch of nothing! Blogging is one of the few things I enjoy and I placed  it on the back burner. Both social media and t.v. can become a huge distraction. I had to take a break and regroup.

I guess part of the reason I’ve spent so much time distracted is because I’ve been avoiding the “what’s next” question. What are my next set of plans/goals. When you fill your head and spirit with too much of anything you lose focus and your goals become skewed. TV and social media are filled with advertisements designed  to entice you, as they should it’s a multi billion dollar industry! Networks and some of the people we “follow” are constantly selling us  products  and or images of what they want us to buy into. It’s so easy to spend hours throughout the day inhaling it all!

Imagine if that time was spent investing into your future. I know that social media and tv is a form of escape and entertainment. What I find most interesting is people sometimes use social media to “shop” and “lust” after other people’s lives. I don’t know if that makes sense to you or not 🙂  In short,  I’m working really hard at fighting distractions and putting my energy into things that that will answer my question of “what’s next”.

Until next time..