Birthday Countdown…

Hey, In less than 30 days until my 38th birthday and just wanted to share a few words of encouragement!

 

 

 

Until next time…

Next Coming To The Stage…

This past Wednesday I spent four glorious minutes on stage doing stand- up! I know right! For the past year or so a friend has been trying to persuade me to do stand-up.  I didn’t know where to start. I love comedy and comedians but I didn’t want to take on someone persona. There are different types of comedy and everyone has a different approach to comedy and you have to find your own rhythm. She signed me up on a Thursday… I was told Saturday that I’d have to “perform” the following Wednesday. So, I had a couple days to come up with material. I was intimated by the idea of standing up and trying to make people laugh. I think that I’m A LOT of FUN but…not stand up comic funny. I’m comfortable with being on stage but, the idea of trying to tell a few jokes on que is something different. Tuesday afternoon I finally jotted down some things I wanted to talk about.

In the beginning of my set you can hear a little tremble in my voice and I forgot some of my notes which was good because it seemed more natural. I find it easy to talk about what you know! I definitely have intentions to do it again. Sometimes you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and try something different. Try something that you’re afraid to do. GO for it!

I loved the experience and I definitely plan to do it again.

If you like to hear it…here it goes!

 

Until next time…

We All Play A Part In Sexual Abuse

Sex is good sex is a blessing, sex is for procreation. Sex is a gift from God. Sex shouldn’t be used to control and overpower someone. It should be consensual.  It’s hard to ignore all the recent sexual allegations in Hollywood and politics. I’m not surprised at all by the accusations. I’ve heard rumors for years about sexual deviants within both industries. Our 42nd President Bill Clinton was accused of making sexual advancements with women who worked for him. Several women came forward  throughout Clinton’s career. One of the most memorable victims was Monica Lewinsky  their scandalous relationship occurred while Clinton was holding office in “The People’s House”. Bill Clinton was later impeachedhed, for multiple charges which included the Lewinnsky scandal.

I remember people (men) joking about how being president of the United States qualifies you to be able to receive fellatio from Monica Leweinsky or any other women of their choosing.  

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Monica Lewinsky

 

Judge Clarence Thomas scandal with Anita Hill also made headline news. In  Junior High we discussed the case and charges. I didn’t understand sexual harassment in the workplace. I understood sexual abuse and her coming forward exposed a very dark reality for many women in the work place.

Bill Cosby “Americas Dad” was alleged to have drugged and sexual assaulted dozens of women. In 2005 he admitted to drugging them with quaalludes in order to have sex. His brand has been tarnished but more importantly I hope his victim’s feelings have been reconciled.

Fast forward to 2016 a recording from several years back was leaked during the presidential campaign. It involved our current President Donald Trump casualing explaining to Billy Bush a Entertainment Reporter how he sexual assaults women and that they allow it because he’s a celebrity. Not too much in the past few thousand years. It’s 2017 and men feel like the have the right to dominate women in that way. Fortunatley,it’s more socially acceptable for the victims to speak out and  there are more platforms that allow both men and women to have a voice and hopefully invoke change.  When I first heard of the Weinstein scandal all I could think about is why didn’t they speak?

These predators are like having a pervy uncle in the family and everyone knows it. There have been rumors in the family for years about his sexual perversion, and yet he keeps being invited to family gathers and your told to avoid him. Everyone turns their head and pretend to not notice his behavior. How do you think that makes the victim feel? They remain silent!

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Terry Crews recently filled a suit against his alleged accuser, Adam Vinet.

I think a lot of  the victims fear becoming blacked balled or shrug it off as not a big deal. Look at Monica Lynskey her career ended before it really had a chance to began. No one has the right to sexually over power you! You should NEVER get used to this type of behavior this is not the role we have to play! The entertainment and political culture is dominated by predators who have power and a position of influence. I understand their fear not to come forward, but it gives the accurses more power to assault others because they think that their getting away with it. It is never too late to speak out against any type of abuse. It’s bigger than your career and remaining a starlet in Hollywood. We all have a responsibility to speak up and to be part of the solution if we want to see change. I think the #metoo campaign has helped a lot of people in and out of Hollywood to share their experiences and make a difference.

Unitl next time…

Does Size Really Matter?

I’ve been really busy this month between my birthday, arranging summer activities and finishing a few projects.  Obviously, the highlight of June has been my birthday but the down side to turning 37 is I’m still single!  At 37 most people have a good sense of self and know what they want in a spouse. But why are there so many single men and women. Is there a lack of good men and women or is it because we’re dating the wrong type of person?

When you’re single people tend to offer their advice to try and make sense of why you’re single.  The most common things I’ve heard are “it’s not your time,” understandable… “two is better than one” agreed… and “everyone needs somebody” ok simple enough…lets move on!  I’m ready to be married and I enjoy my own company. I’m naturally a busy body  and because of that people think that I’m too busy to date.  I make time for what I want to make time for. Oh, and my least favorite is “you’ll meet someone when you lose weight” but not necessarily in that order. So, does size matter? I don’t accept this as truth.  I think it’s important to be the best version of yourself for yourself!

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 An example of how the media reminds you that you are not enough. 

It’s ok for someone to prefer a smaller leaner frame over my robust frame. I’m not offended that I’m not someone’s type! That would be ridiculous for me to be upset about something like that. I have preferences too which are probably border line and may be one of the reasons I’m still single 😊  The Media has great influence on how society views body image dating and relationships. Everyone wants to be someone they’re not. People are overly obsessed with body image.  I’ll walk down my version of lover’s lane and you walk yours.sizemattersoverweight

A few years ago, I took the Five Love Languages quiz.  Which is designed to help you learn you and your partner’s love language.  My top love language is Acts of service. I like being in relationships with people who like doing things for me. It can be as simple as taking out the trash without me having to ask. I found the quiz to be both entertaining and spot on. It perfectly summed up my love language. Not only does it help you learn things about yourself it helps with understanding some of your partner and children needs.

 

Until next time…

 

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Do you wish that life could be scripted? Life would be so much easier if you knew just how to respond to certain inquires… if you knew your cue to talk or to laugh or even to be upset. What if you knew how long you should be upset about a particular issue or if you should be upset at all! I know that this is may be completely unreal for most people but I have had moments in my life where I wish I was able to take back and start all over again!  I’ve said things that are inappropriate and as soon as the words started to roll out of my mouth I knew that it was wrong but it felt so good! It would have been nice if I all of a sudden I heard the director yell CUT and allowed me run my lines again. I would make sure my second take was very prim and proper.

I know that life doesn’t work like that. A girl can imagine! I do know that…God is your director, producer, manager and whatever else you may need. He’ll sit with you when there’s no one else around.  He will advise and direct you if you allow him to do so. You may feel alone and unsure… but trust he is near.

Until next time!