Happy New Year! Were just about one month into the new year and I’m super excited about the new things I have planned for 2019! Here’s a little welcome to 2019 and a follow up to my previous post Managing Relationships.
*Oh and I really did see this squirrel eating a French fry from the dumpster. He was resting on top of a sofa that was hanging out of a city dumpster!*
As someone who is fast approaching 40 (or middle age) I have learned a few things about the complexities of human relationships. We spend alot of our day trying to “figure people out”, from family to friends , friends to lovers, even the president! People are strange. We can be dominating, dominerring and doting all one day! I find myself very fansciatied by the way we communicate as humans, how we manage all of our emotions throughout the busyiness of the day. I think the most complicated relationships of all are romantic relationships. I few weeks ago, I was outside on the porch enjoying the change in seasons and I decided to share a little bit of what I learned about managing relationships.
With all of the distractions around us it’s easy to lose site of who you are and who you want to be. I had to take some time to unplug from social media, tv, phone etc. It’s so easy to get caught up in all the hype. The funny thing is a lot of people don’t think that they’ve “drunk the Kool-Aid”, because their not taking selfies, following fashion trends and keeping up with celebrity gossip…you know, the usual! We’re all drinking the Kool-Aid of the social gravitational pull.
I did some self reflecting and I asked myself a simple question “When am I the most happiest”? My follow up response started with “I am most happiest when I”… from there I listed all the things that make feel fulfilled as a individual. I wanted to list real truths from my heart. Truths that have nothing to do with something I’ve read or watched someone else achieve and tried to claim it for myself. Ofcourse you can be inspired by others however, don’t invest time in something that you’re not passionate about!
Please don’t let people push their insecurites and doubts on to you. So my advice is to take a pen to paper the good ole fashion way and start your sentence the same as I have and create your list. I know it seems elementary but It works! It really helped me gain perspective and I’m working at readjusting my life to line up the things that make me the most happiest!
I hope all is well with you and if not know that it will soon get better! We can’t avoid challenges that come across our paths. We can only control how we move forward. Are you going to move forward emotionally crippled or are you going to move forward bolder and stronger.
We can’t keep it all to ourselves. I don’t tell everyone what I go through but I try to be sure that I find away to deal with it. Prayer and writing is very therapeutic for me but, there have been times a stranger has asked “how are you” and I gave them a earful! It wasn’t what I planned but, It was what I needed at the time. Sometimes I have been that stranger to someone. Find an outlet that works for your lifestyle and don’t get stuck in mixed emotions, feelings of rejection, pain and abuse because it will only fester.
Keep pushing even when you’re tired. Stay focus on who you want to be and what you want out of life.