It’s ok to spend time alone. In fact I think it’s healthy to enjoy your own company and have things that you do for yourself.
I need my downtime because my mind is always busy and sometimes I want to dummy down and watch some of my favorite shows. However, you must be mindful of what you entertain yourself with. The goal is to be a better version of yourself and not get boggled down by the waywardness of the world.
Don’t be afraid and don’t live in fear. Take a chance to do something that you find difficult but will empower you in the end!
Allow Him to pour into you. Don’t compare your partner to the last person you dated or to your friends and family who went through something similar. Their experiences are helpful at times. However, you cannot walk in peace and reverence with God if you only refer to their experiences. You don’t want to limit what God is able do in your life. He will only operate within what you believe. So, if you believe all men cheat, then that’s what you will deal with. When you marry the person that God has ordained to be your spouse, you will need to grow closer to God and keep Him centered in the marriage, not the kids, routines, vacations, or another repair to your body or your house. Some people think, if we add another child to the family, things will be better for my husband and me. Or maybe if I get a better paying job. Maybe I should lose some weight. Or, when the kids get a little older, we will be okay.
The truth is you will be okay when the two of you seek God together and find out what he has for the two of you to do. Petition the Lord for an assignment. Be prepared for what he may show you. He may tell you to have a Bible study in your home. He may say that you need to slow down and seek Him more. Again, marriage is not about how the world views it. Look to God for discernment and know that marriage is God, man, and wife. They are one in the same, just as God is the father, the son, and the Holy Ghost. You can’t have one without the other.
Are there any family traditions or childhood experiences that have affected how you view marriage? If so, how did you work to overcome them? Do you struggle with commitment, and why do you think that is? Has God given you a mission for your marriage?
It feels as though I have heard every famous quote ever written about fear. Such as the famous quote written by our 32nd President, Franklin D. Roosevelt ” The only thing we have to fear is fear it self.” But, yet I have found that a lot of us live in fear. We are so afraid to fell in our career choices, relationships, business endeavors etc. that our lives are unfulfilled and we feel stuck. The fear becomes so familiar and so comfortable that before long we look up and realize that there are so many things that we haven’t accomplished and we ask our self “Is it to late?” It is never to late to chase after your dreams. Everyday you should set up new goals for yourself to accomplish each day. Start small and and every week increase the level of difficulty of each goal. Go hard for yourself! God desires us to live in abundance.