The Beauty Of Black Women

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Most little girls play dress up and put on their mother’s heels, make up and like to feel like a princess. All our story books are filled with stories of romance. The sweet innocent princess is rescued by the handsome charming prince. As the story goes, Snow White  was under a spell and it took “true loves kiss” to wake her! As children, we think romance and beauty is what we see on tv. A fair skin young lady is seen as beautiful and women of color are portrayed as sassy.  When I was younger I remember seeing black women dancing around in videos in a very sexual way. The music was vulgar and the women appeared aggressive. Fast forward twenty something years later and not too much has changed. Black women are seen as aggressive and are unappreciated.

As a kid I thought beauty was fashion and makeup. I never considered the complexion of someone’s skin, social economic status etc as beauty. If your dress was nice and handbag was pretty I thought that that was beauty. As an adult I see beauty in everything. I see beauty in nature and in art! I want to know how other black women feel about beauty and how black women are perceived in society.  I decided to sit with Brandi Turner to get her take on beauty.

The Many Images of Black Women

As Brandi mentioned there are many different shades of black women. Which is a good thing! This idea that lighter skin black women are somehow more attractive than darker skin black women is a LIE! The lie continues to live because of how black women are portrayed in society and media. Remember the story of Snow White she was seen as sweet and innocent and needed to be rescued. She spoke softly and had fair skin. There are women that are that way, however, when you’re not why are you seen as loud, angry or obnoxious?  As black women society tends to go a step further and if we don’t take on that image we are seen as aggressive, rebellious and angry!

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I was raised by a single mother and I’m now a single parent. Obviously, no one plans to be a single parent, however, things happen.  There are fewer black women married than any other race.  Black men are more likely to date outside their race.

We’re not all single mothers there are plenty of successful black married couples. Meet Tamica Webb, she has been married to Peter for almost five years they have one son and a week ago she graduated from Columbia College and she’s’ my younger cousin!  Tamica and I sat down and talked about her perception of beauty as a black woman.

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Society plays a major role in the way we view beauty! I see beauty in everything. It’s so much more than the outer appearance of person. I’m so bored with videos, movies and all the images around us that try to push their beauty standards on to us.

You never see a full-figured women as the love interest in a movie as if full figured women aren’t being pursued! Why does the blonde have to play dumb?  Stop buying into the hype. I’m over it! I love beauty and fashion just like the next person but I buy what I like and if what I like just so happens to be on trend…well that’s even better!

Who Are You Really?

With all of the distractions around us it’s easy to lose site of  who you are and who you want to be. I had to take some time to unplug from social media, tv, phone etc. It’s so easy to get caught up in all the hype. The funny thing is a lot of people don’t think that they’ve “drunk the Kool-Aid”, because their not taking selfies, following fashion trends and keeping up with celebrity gossip…you know, the usual!  We’re all drinking the Kool-Aid of the social gravitational pull.

I did some self reflecting and I asked myself a simple question “When am I the most happiest”? My follow up response started with  “I am most happiest when I”… from there I listed all the things that make feel fulfilled as a individual. I wanted to list real truths from my heart. Truths that have nothing to do with something I’ve read or watched someone else achieve and tried to claim it for myself. Ofcourse you can be inspired by others however, don’t  invest time in something that you’re not passionate about!

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Please don’t let people push their insecurites and doubts on to you. So my advice is to take a pen to paper the good ole fashion way and start your sentence the same as I have and create your list.  I know it seems elementary but It works! It really helped me gain perspective and I’m working at readjusting my life to line up the things that make me the most happiest!

Until next time…

Pretty ‘N Lashed: Lash Extensions

For decades’ women have sometimes tortured themselves all in the name of beauty & I’m one of them! I have put myself in plenty of uncomfortable situations in order to strut around in a new pair of stilettos!  Recently, I had a chance to sit down with Tracie of “Pretty N’ Lashed to discuss extension lashes. She’s a wife, mother and a serial crafter. She’s also a lover of everything feminine & frilly. Tracie has now added entrepreneur to her many roles. As a Certified Lash Technician she applies extension mink lashes which can take up to an hour per visit , however, extension lashes are more natural and desirable than synthetic lashes. They compliment your eyes instead weighing  down your eyelids with globs of glue! An hour doesn’t sound too bad when you want quality work!  She invited me into her home to observe her work on one of her clients!

 

If you want to know more about the history of lashes take a peep at TakeShe Eyelashes

 

Until next time…