It’s ok to spend time alone. In fact I think it’s healthy to enjoy your own company and have things that you do for yourself.
I need my downtime because my mind is always busy and sometimes I want to dummy down and watch some of my favorite shows. However, you must be mindful of what you entertain yourself with. The goal is to be a better version of yourself and not get boggled down by the waywardness of the world.
Don’t be afraid and don’t live in fear. Take a chance to do something that you find difficult but will empower you in the end!
I haven’t blogged in a really long time and with all of the things happening in the US, there’s plenty to talk about. I have so many things to share, but I will keep it simple and focus on what’s been pressing at my heart.
I spent time with a really good friend of mine this weekend and we were talking about life, faith, family and community. She said something that really resonated with me…she said, “we need to turn our pain into purpose”. She’s right! With all the crime, racial and political division, depression, poverty etc. it is easy to get caught up in the hype of it all. We’re so focused on the presidential campaign that we’re forgetting people are still without basic needs, food, shelter, clothing.
This has been a really emotional year for me. With all of the many challenges I’ve faced this year such as; someone breaking into my home and struggling to replace the things that were stolen from my family. My eleven year old is now too afraid to sleep in his room or live in the house. The good thing is we live in a rental and the lease will be up next month. It’s been hard to pull up in front of a house that was vandalized and call it home. I wanted to break my lease and run away I felt so violated but, I had to press through and encourage my son when I needed someone to encourage me. Some of the people at work were shocked when I told them about the robbery because I kept smiling and coming in to work. You have to press through the bad days in order to get to the good days.
We all have something that we’re struggling with. We must move forward and redirect our focus from our pain and turn into something purposeful. Participate in a cause or group that shares your same life mission. Help others to overcome their fears and challenges. Start a group or a club with other like minded people. Do whatever it takes to start feeling better about life. Someone needs to know your story because it will give them hope and empower them to be free.
With all of the ideas, meetings, discussions & decisions etc. that are thrown at us each day. It’s not surprising that most of us are exhausted & aren’t really enjoying our life. Sure, there are times that we feel fulfilled and excited about what our next project will be! However, most of the time we’re running on fumes & feel defeated. I want to be able to say that there is a way to never experience stress or feeling unappreciated but the truth is it takes work on our part to really live in abundance. Although, living in abundance doesn’t mean that we’re drama free. It means that we’ve found a way to live a fulfilling & meaningful life with purpose. If you’re debt free & money isn’t an issue, that doesn’t mean that you’re living a meaningful life. I’m learning that it is good to live simpler. When I cut back a little on whatever it is that I like to indulge in…in that moment I feel less pressure and overtime I find my life to be more meaningful and my emotions shift from feeling defeated to feeling satisfied and then my purpose becomes more clear to me.
I’ve been really working hard at exploring my life and not living in fear. I’ve decided that I’m going get back to doing things I enjoy and I will try to be open to expanding my circle and really try to find comfort in being a little uncomfortable. However, some days it is hard to be to adventurous when you’re doing your routine errands. There have been times that I wanted to have a tantrum. Really, I literal wanted to scream, cry and shout while I stood in the grocery store line. I get it. I get why toddlers would rather break down into tears and fall to the floor. But as adults we can’t, we have to keep it moving! No one has time to really have a tantrum in fact most days we’re really too busy to take good care of ourselves. We like to imagine how better our lives would be if we really did have the time to prepare healthier meals, exercise regularly or more often and have an active social life. I don’t even remember how a social life looks. I usually end my day being self-indulgent in front of my computer, tv or mobile device. But, I am committed to becoming a better me! I think I need to find away to schedule ME in my schedule…