As someone who is fast approaching 40 (or middle age) I have learned a few things about the complexities of human relationships. We spend alot of our day trying to “figure people out”, from family to friends , friends to lovers, even the president! People are strange. We can be dominating, dominerring and doting all one day! I find myself very fansciatied by the way we communicate as humans, how we manage all of our emotions throughout the busyiness of the day. I think the most complicated relationships of all are romantic relationships. I few weeks ago, I was outside on the porch enjoying the change in seasons and I decided to share a little bit of what I learned about managing relationships.
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Until next time….
Leave the past in the past…
After a relationship ends and you’ve moved on we sometimes romanticize the relationship, and this is true for both romantic and platonic relationships. We share stories about how great of a relationship we had and we forget the tough times. I’m not saying that you should be miserable and unforgiving but, what I am saying is appreciate what you’ve learned from the relationship and move on. There’s a reason you’re no longer in the relationship. Don’t linger on to the “good ole days” accept what the truth really is and, walk in your purpose. When we reminisce we sometimes forget the bad times and wonder if we should go back. Not all relationships are meant to be permanent. Not all relationship break off because of a huge fallout and or abuse. It can be as simple as a lack of support.
Friend or faux
I remember going through what I like to call a pre-mid life crisis (honestly it was more serious than that but, I’ll share that with you another time) and, there were people there for me. They didn’t know or really understand what was happening but, they made themselves available and sometimes that’s all you need. Then there were people who didn’t have time because they were dealing with their own issues and couldn’t be as available and that’s ok I’m a reasonable person. There were also people who didn’t really care and some of those relationship ended over time.
See you at the top
I say this humbly, I am THANKFUL for the people who are no longer in my life and I wish them well. It’s not a negative thing those relationships were exhausting. You have to be careful what relationship you invest in and understand the role each person plays in your journey. Don’t get me wrong there are people who are no longer in my life that I’ve been close to over the years but we either loss touch or just moved in different directions. That’s ok because any of those people I welcome into my life any day. I know that I haven’t always been the friend I needed to be and to those people I say I’m sorry!
Until next time…