I haven’t blogged in a really long time and with all of the things happening in the US, there’s plenty to talk about. I have so many things to share, but I will keep it simple and focus on what’s been pressing at my heart.
I spent time with a really good friend of mine this weekend and we were talking about life, faith, family and community. She said something that really resonated with me…she said, “we need to turn our pain into purpose”. She’s right! With all the crime, racial and political division, depression, poverty etc. it is easy to get caught up in the hype of it all. We’re so focused on the presidential campaign that we’re forgetting people are still without basic needs, food, shelter, clothing.
This has been a really emotional year for me. With all of the many challenges I’ve faced this year such as; someone breaking into my home and struggling to replace the things that were stolen from my family. My eleven year old is now too afraid to sleep in his room or live in the house. The good thing is we live in a rental and the lease will be up next month. It’s been hard to pull up in front of a house that was vandalized and call it home. I wanted to break my lease and run away I felt so violated but, I had to press through and encourage my son when I needed someone to encourage me. Some of the people at work were shocked when I told them about the robbery because I kept smiling and coming in to work. You have to press through the bad days in order to get to the good days.
We all have something that we’re struggling with. We must move forward and redirect our focus from our pain and turn into something purposeful. Participate in a cause or group that shares your same life mission. Help others to overcome their fears and challenges. Start a group or a club with other like minded people. Do whatever it takes to start feeling better about life. Someone needs to know your story because it will give them hope and empower them to be free.
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Do you wish that life could be scripted? Life would be so much easier if you knew just how to respond to certain inquires… if you knew your cue to talk or to laugh or even to be upset. What if you knew how long you should be upset about a particular issue or if you should be upset at all! I know that this is may be completely unreal for most people but I have had moments in my life where I wish I was able to take back and start all over again! I’ve said things that are inappropriate and as soon as the words started to roll out of my mouth I knew that it was wrong but it felt so good! It would have been nice if I all of a sudden I heard the director yell CUT and allowed me run my lines again. I would make sure my second take was very prim and proper.
I know that life doesn’t work like that. A girl can imagine! I do know that…God is your director, producer, manager and whatever else you may need. He’ll sit with you when there’s no one else around. He will advise and direct you if you allow him to do so. You may feel alone and unsure… but trust he is near.
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Allow Him to pour into you. Don’t compare your partner to the last person you dated or to your friends and family who went through something similar. Their experiences are helpful at times. However, you cannot walk in peace and reverence with God if you only refer to their experiences. You don’t want to limit what God is able do in your life. He will only operate within what you believe. So, if you believe all men cheat, then that’s what you will deal with. When you marry the person that God has ordained to be your spouse, you will need to grow closer to God and keep Him centered in the marriage, not the kids, routines, vacations, or another repair to your body or your house. Some people think, if we add another child to the family, things will be better for my husband and me. Or maybe if I get a better paying job. Maybe I should lose some weight. Or, when the kids get a little older, we will be okay.
The truth is you will be okay when the two of you seek God together and find out what he has for the two of you to do. Petition the Lord for an assignment. Be prepared for what he may show you. He may tell you to have a Bible study in your home. He may say that you need to slow down and seek Him more. Again, marriage is not about how the world views it. Look to God for discernment and know that marriage is God, man, and wife. They are one in the same, just as God is the father, the son, and the Holy Ghost. You can’t have one without the other.
Are there any family traditions or childhood experiences that have affected how you view marriage? If so, how did you work to overcome them? Do you struggle with commitment, and why do you think that is? Has God given you a mission for your marriage?
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As a single woman in Christ, I’m waiting for God to bring my mate and me together. For a long time, I didn’t really understand what it meant to be one with another person. I memorized Bible verses on marriage, and I thought that was all I needed. I hadn’t ever seen a real godly marriage. I have heard people reminisce about the good man that they used to have, but I’ve never really seen people put in the work to have a successful marriage or relationship. I was raised by a single parent. I understand that sometimes, things don’t work out. Most families in my neighborhood consisted of a mother and one, two, or more children, who, sometimes, had different fathers. As a kid, I learned early on that, if it’s not working out, you have the option to leave.
I was proud that I memorized a few scriptures on marriage, however God wanted more out of me. He wanted me to learn how to avoid being a quitter. After spending time with God through prayer and heartache, I began to commit myself to God’s will and purpose for my life. God gave me understanding about marriage and how it related to me. I believe marriage is something I can be successful at.
Marriage is more than what we see in the world. It’s more than what looks good on paper and what a person can do for you. It is what the two who are married can do for God. You must truly walk with God in order to have a healthy relationship with anyone. You have to spend time with our heavenly father and let Him be lord over your marriage.
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With all of the ideas, meetings, discussions & decisions etc. that are thrown at us each day. It’s not surprising that most of us are exhausted & aren’t really enjoying our life. Sure, there are times that we feel fulfilled and excited about what our next project will be! However, most of the time we’re running on fumes & feel defeated. I want to be able to say that there is a way to never experience stress or feeling unappreciated but the truth is it takes work on our part to really live in abundance. Although, living in abundance doesn’t mean that we’re drama free. It means that we’ve found a way to live a fulfilling & meaningful life with purpose. If you’re debt free & money isn’t an issue, that doesn’t mean that you’re living a meaningful life. I’m learning that it is good to live simpler. When I cut back a little on whatever it is that I like to indulge in…in that moment I feel less pressure and overtime I find my life to be more meaningful and my emotions shift from feeling defeated to feeling satisfied and then my purpose becomes more clear to me.
Until next time…