Tuesday’s Tip

Hi,

It’s ok to spend time alone. In fact I think it’s healthy to enjoy your own company and have things that you do for yourself.

I need my downtime because my mind is always busy and sometimes I want to dummy down and watch some of my favorite shows. However, you must be mindful of what you entertain yourself with. The goal is to be a better version of yourself and not get boggled down by the waywardness of the world.

Don’t be afraid and don’t live in fear. Take a chance to do something that you find difficult but will empower you in the end!

Your voice matters!

Don’t forget to vote this November!!!!

Until next time…

Birthday Countdown…

Hey, In less than 30 days until my 38th birthday and just wanted to share a few words of encouragement!

 

 

 

Until next time…

There’s No Time Like The Present

As 2017 comes to an end, most people are doing their holiday shopping and are already talking about a New Years resolution.  Generally, we make resolutions to lose weight, travel, end or start a relationship. Why wait, start now! I know that this sounds simple, but it really is. Every moment is a chance to start fresh and the date isn’t important.

In honor of the holiday season this will be my last blog of the year… I will resume in 2018.  Merry Christmas and happy holidays from my family to yours!

 

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God bless!

Until next time…

 

We All Play A Part In Sexual Abuse

Sex is good sex is a blessing, sex is for procreation. Sex is a gift from God. Sex shouldn’t be used to control and overpower someone. It should be consensual.  It’s hard to ignore all the recent sexual allegations in Hollywood and politics. I’m not surprised at all by the accusations. I’ve heard rumors for years about sexual deviants within both industries. Our 42nd President Bill Clinton was accused of making sexual advancements with women who worked for him. Several women came forward  throughout Clinton’s career. One of the most memorable victims was Monica Lewinsky  their scandalous relationship occurred while Clinton was holding office in “The People’s House”. Bill Clinton was later impeachedhed, for multiple charges which included the Lewinnsky scandal.

I remember people (men) joking about how being president of the United States qualifies you to be able to receive fellatio from Monica Leweinsky or any other women of their choosing.  

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Monica Lewinsky

 

Judge Clarence Thomas scandal with Anita Hill also made headline news. In  Junior High we discussed the case and charges. I didn’t understand sexual harassment in the workplace. I understood sexual abuse and her coming forward exposed a very dark reality for many women in the work place.

Bill Cosby “Americas Dad” was alleged to have drugged and sexual assaulted dozens of women. In 2005 he admitted to drugging them with quaalludes in order to have sex. His brand has been tarnished but more importantly I hope his victim’s feelings have been reconciled.

Fast forward to 2016 a recording from several years back was leaked during the presidential campaign. It involved our current President Donald Trump casualing explaining to Billy Bush a Entertainment Reporter how he sexual assaults women and that they allow it because he’s a celebrity. Not too much in the past few thousand years. It’s 2017 and men feel like the have the right to dominate women in that way. Fortunatley,it’s more socially acceptable for the victims to speak out and  there are more platforms that allow both men and women to have a voice and hopefully invoke change.  When I first heard of the Weinstein scandal all I could think about is why didn’t they speak?

These predators are like having a pervy uncle in the family and everyone knows it. There have been rumors in the family for years about his sexual perversion, and yet he keeps being invited to family gathers and your told to avoid him. Everyone turns their head and pretend to not notice his behavior. How do you think that makes the victim feel? They remain silent!

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Terry Crews recently filled a suit against his alleged accuser, Adam Vinet.

I think a lot of  the victims fear becoming blacked balled or shrug it off as not a big deal. Look at Monica Lynskey her career ended before it really had a chance to began. No one has the right to sexually over power you! You should NEVER get used to this type of behavior this is not the role we have to play! The entertainment and political culture is dominated by predators who have power and a position of influence. I understand their fear not to come forward, but it gives the accurses more power to assault others because they think that their getting away with it. It is never too late to speak out against any type of abuse. It’s bigger than your career and remaining a starlet in Hollywood. We all have a responsibility to speak up and to be part of the solution if we want to see change. I think the #metoo campaign has helped a lot of people in and out of Hollywood to share their experiences and make a difference.

Unitl next time…

Too Much Of Anything Will Kill You

I haven’t’ been able to blog lately because I’ve been so engrossed in social media and t.v. and my more recent obsession is reading national and world news articles. Reading my daily articles are one the first things I do in the morning, after prayer. It’s NOT the best way to start your day..well  not for me, because you are distracted all day at work thinking about all of things happening around you.  I was over an hour late to work because I was reading news articles! I’ve been in twitter wars with people over politics and the Stockley verdict and you know what I got out of it? A bunch of nothing! Blogging is one of the few things I enjoy and I placed  it on the back burner. Both social media and t.v. can become a huge distraction. I had to take a break and regroup.

I guess part of the reason I’ve spent so much time distracted is because I’ve been avoiding the “what’s next” question. What are my next set of plans/goals. When you fill your head and spirit with too much of anything you lose focus and your goals become skewed. TV and social media are filled with advertisements designed  to entice you, as they should it’s a multi billion dollar industry! Networks and some of the people we “follow” are constantly selling us  products  and or images of what they want us to buy into. It’s so easy to spend hours throughout the day inhaling it all!

Imagine if that time was spent investing into your future. I know that social media and tv is a form of escape and entertainment. What I find most interesting is people sometimes use social media to “shop” and “lust” after other people’s lives. I don’t know if that makes sense to you or not 🙂  In short,  I’m working really hard at fighting distractions and putting my energy into things that that will answer my question of “what’s next”.

Until next time..