Start Small & Start From Home

Hi,

Calling all visionaries, entrepreneurs and inspiring entrepreneurs now is the time to pursue your dreams and walk in your true purpose. We have more down time than before so here’s the “sign” you’ve been waiting for!

There’s a lot of uncertainty when you’re starting a new business and over the years, I’ve attempted to do it all. I’ve tried catering, I made jewelry, and sled published a book the list goes on and on. I’m a single parent and to have to work full time!

I set weekly and monthly goals and every day I work towards them. Some days it’s a struggle to push myself because it can be discouraging and exhausting but if I don’t do it who will? You can’t wait around for someone to “discover” you the Bible says Faith without works is dead James 2 ( I’m paraphrasing) and the world says no pain not gain & no risk no reward! You get the point!

Some days I brainstorm ideas or research other successful businesses. In the past I didn’t have the resources to take any of my ideas to the next level.  Although, catering and jewelry design are businesses that you can run out of your home, they can also be costly when your sales are inconsistent!

Here it is… my one useful business tip: FOCUS! I wished that someone would’ve told me to focus on one type of jewelry piece, such as; bracelets. You can make different variations of bracelets without ever making the same piece twice. I can not stress the importance of sticking to one type of jewelry in the beginning, it keeps the cost and the pressure down. Regardless, of what people tell you. They’ll have you spending money, designing and taking time from your family but they’re not buying.  Now, there are always exceptions to the rule: if you have a special order, a wedding event for example, make sure you secure a deposit before purchasing additional supplies. Over time add necklaces, rings etc. Set a goal of how much money and time you can invest.

In the case of my failed attempt at catering, I’ve learned to start with something you specialize in such as sandwiches or desserts.  Again, focus on your specialty and then build your menu. You can hold tasting parties, to gage what people prefer and that’s a good way to network and market your business.

Remember, Tracie from Pretty’ N Lashed? Tracie has started her business right from home, where she can still manage her household and has no overhead expenses. Her supplies will last for months at a time. She doesn’t have much to maintain and she’s profiting! Look at the video below to check out Tracie’s in home work station.

 

Until next time…

The Beauty Of Black Women

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Most little girls play dress up and put on their mother’s heels, make up and like to feel like a princess. All our story books are filled with stories of romance. The sweet innocent princess is rescued by the handsome charming prince. As the story goes, Snow White  was under a spell and it took “true loves kiss” to wake her! As children, we think romance and beauty is what we see on tv. A fair skin young lady is seen as beautiful and women of color are portrayed as sassy.  When I was younger I remember seeing black women dancing around in videos in a very sexual way. The music was vulgar and the women appeared aggressive. Fast forward twenty something years later and not too much has changed. Black women are seen as aggressive and are unappreciated.

As a kid I thought beauty was fashion and makeup. I never considered the complexion of someone’s skin, social economic status etc as beauty. If your dress was nice and handbag was pretty I thought that that was beauty. As an adult I see beauty in everything. I see beauty in nature and in art! I want to know how other black women feel about beauty and how black women are perceived in society.  I decided to sit with Brandi Turner to get her take on beauty.

The Many Images of Black Women

As Brandi mentioned there are many different shades of black women. Which is a good thing! This idea that lighter skin black women are somehow more attractive than darker skin black women is a LIE! The lie continues to live because of how black women are portrayed in society and media. Remember the story of Snow White she was seen as sweet and innocent and needed to be rescued. She spoke softly and had fair skin. There are women that are that way, however, when you’re not why are you seen as loud, angry or obnoxious?  As black women society tends to go a step further and if we don’t take on that image we are seen as aggressive, rebellious and angry!

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I was raised by a single mother and I’m now a single parent. Obviously, no one plans to be a single parent, however, things happen.  There are fewer black women married than any other race.  Black men are more likely to date outside their race.

We’re not all single mothers there are plenty of successful black married couples. Meet Tamica Webb, she has been married to Peter for almost five years they have one son and a week ago she graduated from Columbia College and she’s’ my younger cousin!  Tamica and I sat down and talked about her perception of beauty as a black woman.

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Society plays a major role in the way we view beauty! I see beauty in everything. It’s so much more than the outer appearance of person. I’m so bored with videos, movies and all the images around us that try to push their beauty standards on to us.

You never see a full-figured women as the love interest in a movie as if full figured women aren’t being pursued! Why does the blonde have to play dumb?  Stop buying into the hype. I’m over it! I love beauty and fashion just like the next person but I buy what I like and if what I like just so happens to be on trend…well that’s even better!

Chub Rub

Spring is here and we’re exchanging our long pants for dresses, skirts and swimsuits. This is also the time of the year where we’re more likely to experience chub rub or inner thigh chafing. Chafing can occur anywhere of your body to both men women. It’s caused by working out, wearing tight clothes, moisture and friction.

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I’m guilty of squeezing into a tight pant which causes my inner thighs to rub against the inside of the pant and creates friction & moisture and causes chafing.  It’s important to use lubricate and or wear something like shapeware to serve as a barrier.  I try to be consistent about applying a lubricate while wearing dresses, skirts but I forget about my pants.  I don’t have a “thigh gap” my thighs are really good friends they spend all of their time together!

Prevent chafing by…

  • Keep your commonly moist areas dry
  • Change out wet clothes immediately
  • Lubricate problem areas

You can purchase otc items like baby powder, petroleum jelly, and shapewear to protect your skin and prevent chafing. I personally use deodorant it’s convenient when and I don’t need to add another product to my shopping list. You can get a cheap sample size and leave it in your purse or bag. Be sure to clean and pat dry the area before applying your preferred product.  If you’re currently experiencing chafing you can use aloe vera, oatmeal, olive oil. essential oils etc to help sooth the discomfort.

Discolorations from chaffing…

Chafing is generally red on fairer skin and generally darker on people of color which is called hyperpigmentation. I deal with hyperpigmentation and I found a honey, lemon and sugar scrub recipe that you can use all over your body!  Lemons naturally lightens skin, the sugar is used as a exfoliate to remove dead skin and the honey is gentle for your body.

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If you need something stronger you  can use otc products like Ambi to reduce discoloration and it’s good for all skin types or contact your Dermatologist.

Lemon, honey & sugar scrub

1.5 tsp of lemon juice

2 tsp of sugar

2 tsp of honey

Until next time…

 

I Ghosted My Job!

I decided in 2020 to be open about my mental health disorder: Bipolar Disorder.

I recently took on a second seasonal job for the holiday. I was overly excited (manic) I was like a little kid running around excited on Christmas morning. I really enjoyed the IDEA of having the job. I worked at a retail store that I shopped frequently prior to being an employee. I specifically wanted to work this home decor store. I provided my availability and they gave me just that! My managers were cool my co-workers instantly became like a little family even the customers were cool!

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After a couple weeks of working the commute the scheduling everything became too much. The job felt like a burden!
I also made adjustments to my meds so my emotions were all over the place I didn’t know if I wanted to sing a joyous hymn or ball up and cry in my bed all day. Getting up in the mornings to start my regular work day took all the energy and prayers I could muster up at 6 am.

I know how to fake it until I’m up again! That’s what I’ve always done! Having a Bipolar disorder means you have extreme highs known as manic episodes and you have lows. A manic episode can lead you on a flight out of the country to “find yourself” without a dollar in your account to fund the rest of the trip.

And when you’re low you sometimes can’t move out the bed. It’s not a completely hopeless situation because there’s meds that keep you balance! But when you make changes to your meds in the middle of a lifestyle change such as getting a new job or a second job etc it can be overwhelming! It can feel like the wind has been knocked out of you!

It was Saturday morning and I had to be at work that afternoon I laid in bed all morning like I was paralyzed. The mere idea of getting dressed and having to talk to people all day was just too much.

I didn’t even have the energy to call off. I promised myself I would do it later in the evening. My manager called twice and left very concerned messages and there I laid almost 40 and I was hiding under the covers. I just couldn’t handle explaining what was happening and I felt so guilty!

I believe she would’ve truly understood. But it was too much for me at the time! I tried to find an email or some way to communicate privately what was happening! I don’t mind sharing but sometimes it’s hard to introduce your real self to people! It’s been a week today and I’m back to somewhat of some normalcy and preparing for Christmas!

I’ll see you guys in 2020. Happy holidays to all and to all a good night!

Until next time…

5 Easy Steps To Breaking Habits

Hello,

I’m all about self-improvement and I have a few bad habits that I’d like to break such as going to bed without brushing me teeth that’s one of my lesser crimes 😉. It’s so easy to cozy up in bed buried under the covers.  I decided that I am going to create a new night time routine and set a nightly alarm on my phone to remind myself to adhere to the new routine.

 Dictionary.com defines habit as “an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary: the habit of looking both ways before crossing the street.”

Here’s a few tips to get started with having a healthier lifestyle and breaking a habit.

  1. Identify the habit
  2. Identity what caused the habit.
  3. Why does it needs to be changed?
  4. Create an alternative.
  5. Implement the change.

 

Until next time.