Well I took my own advice from my older blog post Launch Out Into The deep For Love. I registered for POF or Plenty of Fish! Get it… Launch.. Out… Into… The.. Deep…POF…play on words! Ok, you get it! More importantly it’s a free site! A few years ago a co-worker told me about the site and I created an account which lasted about two hours! I met a guy that was attractive. Ok, so far so good. He asked me what I like doing for fun? I answered with something corny and basic (corny & basic is trending) 🙂 I asked him the same question and his response was “I like to play with people”. What? Really? I closed my account right away.
Three years later I’m up late reading and sipping on wine, being a girl and I see a commercial for POF. I decided to give it a second chance. I’m always looking for something fun!
*Disclaimer* I personally know people who have found love of dating sites and I believe that it works. I’m not trying to discourage anyone from using a dating site.
O.k. now the disclaimer is out of the way I have to say that it wasn’t a bad experience overall. For the most part the guys were respectful. To be honest I didn’t take any of the conversations and or contacts seriously. The first red flag is when I saw my friend’s husband, father of her kids, partner, boo or whatever on the site. He has a whole family at home why in the world was he on the site. Then there were a couple guys that sent messages like “I want to worship your body”. Yep, they want worship my body! Thanks…I guess. Then there were other guys who asked things like what do you like to do and they seemed really genuine but lived out of town! That’s not convenient at all but they were the most normal out of the bunch. I I exchanged numbers with them and shared a few phone calls and text messages. I’m really bad about texting. I will put the phone down and forget that I’m texting…which happened a couple times with one of the guys.
I told a couple of guys to take a look at my blog! I don’t want to sound arrogant…like hey google me! LOL but it is a way to get to know someone. I know that it’s a little lazy but it’s convenient. One of the guys who lived out of town was really interesting but I couldn’t get past his location! Which I’m not totally opposed to but realistically it wouldn’t work. He was really nice, intelligent and funny! I think his experiences were more interesting than mine. He said that he was approached several times by individuals who are transgender.
He said that they were very attractive and he was unaware that they were trans. He explained how he was pursued and became somewhat familiar and interested and then BAM he was hit over the head with “I’m trans”. He was introduced to a lot of technical terms pertaining to sex among other things that he couldn’t explain because it was all so new to him. I don’t know how all of that came up in a conversation on POF but I didn’t want to stick around and find out! He felt like he had been catfished.
Dating in 2017…
Dating is different and more difficult. I understand why some cultures arrange marriages. It really takes the hassle out of dating! How can you discuss marriage without God? All you can do is respect others view on dating & marriage without out compromising your beliefs.
Until next time…